Be very careful accessing this site from home – make sure that your partner can’t tell which sites you’ve visited. You will get an email from us when you register – make sure that you delete the email. Also, by default you will receive automatic notifications when other users post comments to content that you have posted on the site. You can change your email settings from your My Account page. Look at our internet safety advice (below) for more information about this.

The only name that will show on the site is the name that you choose when you register – your pseudonym. We will not share your information with anyone without your permission unless you are using this site to harass or degrade people who have experienced domestic violence or to try to find and harass your partner. In this case we may pass on details to the police. (for more information about this see notes 2,3,4 of the Privacy Policy and note 1 of the Terms and Conditions)

We will not provide your information to anyone for any advertising or sales purposes.

We will only pass on your email contact if you specifically ask us to send it to another member of the group.

Registration and Safety

How can an abuser discover your internet activities?
Please take a few minutes to read the warning below and to take steps to increase your safety when using the internet and the He Drove me Mad website.

E-mail:
If an abuser has access to your email account, they may be able to read your incoming and outgoing mail. If you believe your account is secure, make sure you choose a password that an abuser will not be able to guess. If an abuser sends you threatening or harassing e-mail messages, they may be printed and saved as evidence of this abuse.

History/cache file:
If an abuser knows how to read your computer’s history or cache file (automatically saved web pages and graphics), they may be able to see information you have viewed recently on the internet. You can clear your history or empty your cache file in your browser’s settings.

This information may not completely hide your tracks. Many browser types have features that display recently visited sites. The safest way to find information on the internet, would be at a local library, a friend’s house, or at work.

If you have a very tech-savvy and suspicious partner they may also check your temporary files and cookies folder. Details from most sites visited are sent here automatically. These are not viewable in the browser history once you have deleted it using the methods below but they are still saved to a drive on the computer. It is usually not necessary to delete these but if you would like more information about how to delete these files see the Microsoft support tutorial here: http://support.microsoft.com/kb/260897. Another thing to consider if you have a suspicious partner is that deleting your ENTIRE browsing history could act as a red flag that you are covering your tracks. If your partner knows that people in the house are using the internet it will be suspicious to find no or very few sites listed in the browser history. Because of this we recommend only deleting the sites you do not want them to see. For example instead of emptying the entire folder you could follow the instructions for 'viewing history' and then right-click on each individual site you want deleted and select 'delete'. For more information you can go to www.netsafe.org.nz

Microsoft Internet Explorer users:
Viewing History
Microsoft Internet Explorer 7.x users can view their history files by clicking the "Tools" menu, "Internet Options", clicking the "Settings" button under the Browsing history, and then clicking the "View Files" button. Microsoft Internet Explorer 6.x users can view their history files by clicking the "Tools" menu, "Internet Options", clicking the "Settings" button, and then clicking the "View Files" button.

Deleting History
Microsoft Windows users running Microsoft Internet Explorer 6.x and 7.x can delete their history files by clicking the "Tools" menu, "Internet Options", and clicking the "Delete Files" or "Delete" button. Users also have the option of automatically deleting files each time the close the browser window by clicking the "Advanced" tab and checking "Empty Temporary Internet Files folder when browser is closed" under the "Security" section. Microsoft Internet Explorer 4.x users on an Apple Macintosh can delete the history by clicking the "Hard Drive" icon, "System", "Preferences", "Explorer", and moving the history file into the trash. Remember to empty the trash. Microsoft Internet Explorer 3.02 and lower users can delete their history by clicking the "View" menu, "Options", open the tab "Advanced", click the "Settings" tab, and click the "Empty Folder" button.

Mozilla Firefox users:
Viewing History
Press Ctrl + H to open the left-side history bar. or Click History at the top of the window. or Users using earlier versions of Mozilla Firefox can also view their history by clicking "Go" and clicking "History."

Deleting History
Mozilla Firefox users can clear their history by clicking the "Tools" menu, "Options", clicking the "Piracy" button, and under "History" click the "Clear" or "Clear Now" button. or Press CTRL + Shift + DEL to open the Clear Data Window.

Netscape users
Viewing History
Microsoft Windows users can view history by first opening Netscape and click the "Edit" menu, "Preferences", "History", and view the location where Netscape is storing your files. Next, open this folder within Explorer.

Deleting History
Netscape users can delete their history files by clicking the "Edit" menu, "Preferences", "History", and click the "Clear History" button.

Opera users
Viewing History
Users can view their history files by opening the "cache" folder within their opera folder. Microsoft Windows users can often find this within "C:\Program files\Opera\ ." If you're unable to locate the cache within this directory try opening the "C:\Documents and Settings\**HOPE**\Application Data\Opera\Opera\profile" folder, where **HOPE** is the name of the username you use to log into Windows.

Deleting History
Opera users can delete their history by clicking the "File" menu, "Preferences", "History", and click "Empty now" button. In addition, users can check "Empty on exit" if they wish for this task to occur each time they exit the browser.